I have reasons to be as upset as I was and it didn’t help that my girlfriend defended her best friend. The purpose of the housewarming to welcome my girl’s best friend and her fiancé into a house he had managed to purchase. They were moving into it immediately.
I was unhappy from the start because my girlfriend wanted to go all out and really contribute meaningfully to the new home. In other words, she wanted to give them a large expensive television as a housewarming present. This represented a lot of hard-earned money and I wasn’t very sure the couple would stay together for the long haul. Nonetheless, I bought the television.
The following account details the problems with the housewarming party, and should serve as a lesson in how not to conduct a housewarming:
- The yard was not in when we walked up to the house. I understand this, but I didn’t understand why the yard was full of cans and bottles, and pieces of tarpaper and aluminum flashing. I thought some time and energy should have been put in to clean it up.
- I was experiencing doubt when we walked into the house, but was floored by what I found once we entered. The walls in some rooms were unpainted and electrical outlets were hanging out of the holes in the walls.
- Amazingly, the electrical deposit had not yet been paid and there was no electricity.
- Most rooms were full of unpacked boxes with clothes on hangers draped over them.
- The bedroom had a mattress on the floor since they had already moved in and were sleeping there.
- The kitchen was a real mess and littered with dirty take-out boxes.
- A litter box—which had not been emptied lately—was in the kitchen by the door and at least one cat was on the loose.
- Refreshments consisted of take-out chicken, open Styrofoam containers of coleslaw and potato salad along with cut-open packages of cookies. In other words everything was an afterthought with no regard for the guests.
- The host and hostess had no idea what their plans were for the various rooms and I suspected nothing much would be done to improve them.
My girlfriend said her best friend and her finance were head-over-heels in love and couldn’t keep their hands off each other, leaving no time to plan for the party. She thought it was cute; the television cost almost $500 and she paid approximately $75 dollars of it with me paying the remainder. I didn’t think it was cute.
My gripe is that I believe that as a guest—who was giving an expensive gift—I deserved more time, effort and thoughtful planning than I received. I feel disrespected and cheated by the inconsiderate and rude behavior of the couple who held the housewarming party.
To add insult to injury, we barely got a “thank you”, much less a card in the mail.
I am still steamed about my girl’s defense of her friend and it remains a very sore point between us.